Lois L. Vallese

  • Born: January 12, 1938
  • Died: December 15, 2018
  • Location: North Wildwood, New Jersey

Radzieta Funeral Home

9 Hand Avenue
P.O. Box 37
Cape May Court House, NJ 08210

Tel. (609) 465-7458

Tribute & Message From The Family

On December 15th, 2018, Lois L. Vallese, 80, graduated to HEAVEN to be with her Creator. Lois received the highest honors attainable on this earth. Her life is one depicted of kindness, service, sacrifice and love. Lois spent much of her life serving her family and community. She worked at Burdette Tomlin Memorial Hospital as a registered nurse, acted as a den mother for the Cub Scouts, volunteered for the Greater Wildwood Little League and often fed the many friends who gathered at her home on 5th and Surf Avenue in North Wildwood, NJ. Lois knew poverty and abundance through her lifetime and remained humble and kind in either state. She worked tirelessly, loved fiercely, and powerfully influenced anyone who met her. She cared for sick patients with dignity and compassion. Despite an MS Diagnosis over 30 years ago, Lois carried within her a spirit of resilience and strength. She appeared to those on the outside as frail and weakened. Quite to the contrary to anyone who was blessed enough to know her true spirit, Lois was a fierce warrior. She expressed only gratitude and thankfulness to GOD and lived intentionally in loving those around her. In serving her physical needs, each one of her children experienced a deeper understanding to the SOURCE of her true strength and inner peace through her example of humility. Lois Vallese appeared to the world disabled and imprisoned to a life in a wheelchair; but to those who knew her secret, she was a Warrior Princess, aboard her chariot, running the race that she was called to run. In the end, she was welcomed into heaven hearing, "Well done my good and faithful servant."

Lois went HOME to join her husband, John J. Vallese, and their daughter, Trish Vallese Stone who graduated in April of this year. She is predeceased by her brother, Howard Lloyd, and sister, Ruth Conner. She is survived by her remaining children George (JoAnn) Vallese, Nancy Vallese, John Vallese, Andy Stone, Mark Vallese, Dorann (Lew) Heminway, and Joe (Tara) Vallese. 10 grandchildren, her sister, Anne Azeez, who was one of her greatest supporters, and many nieces and nephews. She was also well loved by amazing neighbors, the Gavin Family, and other friends.

There will be a Christmas Worship Celebration of her life on Sunday, December 23, 2018 at 9:30 am at Crest Community Church, 5901 Pacific Avenue in Wildwood Crest, NJ. Following the Celebration, the family will be available to visit and receive friends at 11:00 am, but requests casual attire as our church seeks to be an outreach to the community. Recognizing the closeness to Christmas, the family encourages sending notes or stories of Lois, rather than traveling during the busy holiday season.

Donations may be made to More Than Enough Food Bank, 5901 Pacific Avenue, Wildwood Crest, NJ 08260.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Aunt Lois!

"At the end of the day, people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel."

Thank you for making me feel loved and accepted my whole life! As a child I felt so lucky that you opened your home to me in the summer and let me stay for weeks at a time and become like one of your kids! I remember asking you if I could call you 'Mom' one year and of course you willingly agreed! Thank you for teaching me and Nancy the duet song "You're just in Love" (after all these years we sing it every time we see each other!), letting me trim your bangs when I was 12 and style your gorgeous red hair in your pink living room ( I felt so accomplished after that,) showing me how to cut a tomato without a cutting board, turning me on to the Carpenters and Simon and Garfunkle, and making steamed clams. These things will always remind me of you!

Mostly, thank you for the example of patience and perseverance that you so graciously modeled to all of us throughout each stage and circumstance of your life.

To my awesome cousins....I love you all and I know you are comforted in the knowledge that your precious mother is in the much deserved presence of the Lord. My family's prayers are with you always.

Posted by Barb Navin - Lancaster, PA - Family   December 20, 2018

We were so sad to learn of Lois' passing. She was a generous, remarkable woman, dedicated to her family through any circumstances, and they to her. Like so many who knew her, we miss her deeply.

Posted by Andy, Diane and Matthew Cripps - CARROLLTON, VA - Family Friend   December 20, 2018

I will remember Aunt Lois for her fierce loyalty to her family, her kindness to my parents, her devotion to God and her gracious acceptance of the frailties of life!
God speed Aunt Lo! Until we meet again!

To the Vallese Family,
You remain in our thoughts and prayers!

Dennis and Dianne DiMarco

Posted by Dennis and Dianne DiMarco - Fort Myers, FL - Family   December 20, 2018

I offer my sincere condolences to all of the family far & Near always had a smile was such a nice lady peace to all family who I personally know are rejoicing that her journey has just begun eternally in heaven where she has a brand new body & is rejoicing praise god for all of you who have always showed love & compassion to all.

Posted by Jimmy Stanfield - Seaville, NJ - Family Friend   December 19, 2018

Dave ,CJ and I loved cooking and serving Lois breakfast at church I loved the smile she gave me when I brought flowers out with her meal she was a matriarch a strong loving woman and she has done an amazing job as a mother she will be missed we love you all

Love Tina,Dave and CJ

Posted by Tina,,Dave and CJ Colubriale - wildwood crest, NJ - Family Friend   December 19, 2018